So IB requires us to write a 4000 word essay (which for a high school student is a lot ok) called the “extended essay”. My extended essay is due Tuesday…#KillMeNow. I didn’t go to church because I’m working on it. To be honest, I feel guilty because I always get mad when others use school as an excuse to not go to church…and here I am doing the same. I should’ve started the Extended Essay much earlier.
This leads right down to what I wanted to talk about though: The benefit of the doubt. Last week, I was put in a group project with my friends…and this girl named Megan. Now a lot of people make fun of Megan simply because she’s weird and she always unexpectedly cries in the middle of class. Of course last time, I was the one who had to console her. My teacher was like… wait why was she crying this time? Haha she just confuses everyone.
While I was “consoling her”, she was telling me about how her life is hard. Her parents wanted to make sure she got at least straight Cs and her parents were making her focus on academics instead of her social life. First thing that I thought: Straight C’s? Spend a few hours to focus on academics? Wow, my parents would kill me. You have it easy…stop crying. I couldn’t take it seriously.
I was telling Joe about it the next day…and he wasn’t amused. He was actually kinda angry. He said, just because something’s easy for you doesn’t mean it’s easy for everyone. You don’t know if Megan might have trouble keeping her grades to at least C’s…that doesn’t give you the right to make her problems less superior than yours. Uhhhhhhhh. Slap in the face hahaha.
It’s true though. I don’t know if I would actually call this the “Benefit of the Doubt”, but I applied it. Because I can’t be one to judge Megan’s problems. Especially if I don’t know all of it. To my surprise, I found the benefit of the doubt applicable in multiple situations that week. For example, Austin and I were fighting all week over something silly…and neither of us would let down our ego to say sorry. I should’ve given him the benefit of the doubt…he could’ve been having a rough week. I did eventually give it to him after I learned this lesson, and turns out he did have a bad week. And I’m not saying that’s an excuse…but it makes the fight that Austin and I had so minute and not worth our time.
So that was my lesson from last week. It’s amazing how God can highlight your flaws. And those kids who skip church to do homework… I need to start giving them the benefit of the doubt. Maybe they have extended essays every week. Lol
This blog is a shout out to God! I feel like we only seek God in times of trouble. Whenever we do good, we forget about him. The blessings of our lives are also because of God. I just got a result of my math test last week, and God seriously took the test for me. Hahaha. Sounds crazy, but God is great! Thank you 🙂
“Praise the Lord. Praise the Lord, my soul” (Psalm 146:1, NIV).
Hello! So I’ve been working at Kumon (an academic enrichment program for kids) for more than a year now and i love it, because you get to know each kid, especially the younger ones, personally. There is a kid named Ryan. He’s about 5, and he purposely likes to not follow rules as joke – as do most kids. He’ll wear his hood when I ask him to take it off. I’ll tell him to focus…and literally 5 minutes later when I’m zoning out he’ll tell ME to focus. It’s funny to say we have a great time together.
Today Ryan had to take a test with me. I kept telling him to put his hood down…but he never did. After his test though… poor Ryan got in trouble for keeping his hood up. After that Ryan was super bummed out. He wouldn’t even look me in the eye! He kept looking down and part of me wanted to laugh because he reminded me of myself, and part of me wanted to do something to make him happy. It was so sad :(. Later while Ryan was waiting for his dad, I went over to talk to him. Now I thought he was bummed out because he got in trouble, so I decided to change the topic and asked him about his test which I thought he did well on.
I was like, “Ryan, how’d you do your test?!”
And his response was, “I failed it.”
“Everyone fails tests it’s okay.”
“No, this is my fourth time failing it…and now my dad’s going to yell at me.”
I giggled a little. Indian parents 🙂
“Ryan, your dad yells because he loves you”
“No he doesn’t.”
“Then why does he yell?”
“I don’t know ask him”
It was funny and sad at the same time. It’s funny because all parents (Indian especially) do this. In fact I still get lectured for getting a 30 on the ACT (No one dare bring the word ACT in my household). It’s sad because at Ryan’s age he can’t understand why his dad kept getting upset. I look back as a child and I would react the same. And 17 years later I only kind of understand. I understand the frustration of how parents spend their career working hard for their children, and want them to succeed to their full potential. And when children give up…or don’t reach their full potential…it’s upsetting.
I related this to God in a similar way. There’s a quote on my piano teacher’s wall that says: “Who you are is your gift from God, what you make of yourself is your gift to God.” So true. We may receive consequences for not listening to God, God may get angry (Or in other words may make us angry. I’m not really sure about the “God may get angry” statement because he is patient…soo someone shed some light) , but in the end everything God does for us is because he loves us. We go through tough times because God knows we can do it. God knows what we are capable of, and won’t take us past our limits, but wants to do everything he can to let us reach our FULL purpose in this lifetime.
I know I ran off on a tangent. But, I’m blessed to have my parents and God push me the way I do. I’m sure in the future, Ryan will feel the same 🙂
11:54 on September 3rd. Time for sleep… after I blog 😉
I know hearing that “God has a plan for you” over and over again is so repetitive. It gets to a point where “God has a plan for you” sounds so cliche, it doesn’t have the meaning it used to. God has a plan? A plan for me to go to school/work? To live a routine lifestyle? To get old and die? No. Well, maybe. How will I know what choices to make? How will I know this is where I’m supposed to be? How do I know I don’t have to fear or be worried about my future?
I ran into this verse last week:
“For we are God’s handiwork created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do” (Ephesians 2:10, NIV). God has a plan that he has prepared you in advance for. Each event in your life is preparing you for your future job…your future family…or even your future relationship with God. Personally, I found that consoling. It has definitely been my source of motivation. You are prepared in advance.