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being the best you can be

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hello friends! it’s now summer! and it’s so exciting! why? because you can FINALLY have that harry potter marathon you’ve been dying to have, and you can finally have those late night phone calls with your best friend and not have it haunt you the rest of the day, let alone week.

i think something i’ve realized is that time is limited. i have control over what i’m going to accomplish and how i’m going to spend it, and more than anything i will never be in my twenties again (aka lots of adventure and personal growth – really focusing on becoming the best you can be). that being said, i’ve realized that being the best i can be IS dependent on where i am, what opportunities lie, & who i’m surrounded by.

ex A: i absolutely love going home; my mom is the BEST cook. So obviously, when i go home, i don’t cook because why would i waste GOOD FOOD?  in fact, i didn’t even begin learning how to cook until i started living on my own, and i’m STILL learning. Now that it’s summer and I’m living on my own (+awesome patient roommate), I’ve been able to cook a new meal at least 1-2 times a week, and it’s great! But, I wouldn’t be able to do this in my previous setting.

When I’m living on my own, despite how much I love going home, I realize that I am becoming the best version of myself. and there’s nothing wrong with that. In fact, i think it’s a good thing to challenge yourself, take that risk to explore, and realize what nutrients you need to grow. so…i challenge you to do the same. how can you be the best you can be?

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Respect

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This is so weird. So I was thinking about ways people have “fun” in college. And I asked myself, why is that bad on a spiritual level? I understood that it would harm your relationship with God, but I didn’t understand the significance of that. SO WHAT? Someone sins, relationship breaks, person repents, God forgives, the relationship is back. Yay. It’s a cycle, why not have some fun? 

Ironically, my friend, Emily, was just talking to me about her relationship with an older (~8 years) friend of ours named Bianca. The thing is, Bianca tries to explain to Emily how she doesn’t give Bianca the respect she deserves as someone who is older. Now, while age doesn’t necessarily mean respect, with age comes maturity (causation relationship). Maturity is one factor that determines respect. So, an older sister, for example Bianca, is someone who deserves respect. We have no right to talk to her disrespectfully because we are in no position to. However, because we are less mature we misinterpret this as “wanting authority,” and we fight back, eventually knowing that although this relationship is broken at the moment, it will come back to normal because she’s is like our sister. 

Similarly, I think we treat God like that. Yes, you can have as much fun in college as you want, and God will forgive you. BUT, do you respect God enough to listen to him? Do you respect God enough to realize he is much more mature than us, so much more all-knowing, and SO much more powerful than us? And that’s why, even though God is much more merciful and forgiving than we deserve, we need to realize God is greater than us, and he deserves our utmost respect. 

Pre-Prep

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Hello everyone! So a quick update on my life: college is coming by so quickly. While I am extremely excited about graduating and growing up, I am learning so much about myself even before I enter college. 

Last week was admitted students day, where over 4,000 admitted students toured campus, went to mock lectures, and met many many potential classmates. It was big and exciting. It also started at 7 in the morning. I went with an old friend of mine, Vasundhara, who lives in Texas (I don’t live in Texas, just so you guys aren’t confused. Lovely place though, a lot of my cousins live there). She’s coming back to Colorado, which is my home town. I am a Colo Native, WHOO! Now let me clarify, I thought I socialized enough before college, I really did. But literally, the number of people I met that day was absolutely ridiculous. By the time it was 12 I was literally passed out and overwhelmed by the number of people I had met. 

BUT THAT WASN’T EVEN CLOSE TO THE END! At 5, my friend Vasundhara who may I remind you lives in another state was co organizing this barbecue for students attending this event. What does that mean? That I had to socialize even more. The big group was supposed to meet at this huge field. However, because neither of us were familiar with the campus, we ended up being the last one’s to meet the huge group waiting for us. Well…waiting for her. Lol. Anyways, the people waiting for us… they were an interesting crowd. I really don’t want to expand on what types of people they were, I just want to emphasize that they were different. 

Now, I never thought I was thaat judgmental. I know being judgmental is human nature, but some struggle with it more than others. While living in the suburban neighborhood I live in now, I was definitely the weirdest it got. The definition of “ghetto” means that a building hasn’t been renovated in the past five years. Everyone is wearing name-branded clothing. Everyone else was that basic girl…or guy. Everyone was almost the SAME. A typical “rando” (as Kayla would say) did not exist in this part of town. I realized, that’s why I really never knew what “different” was. When I saw those different girls on the field that day, I judged because they were “different” from me. But I realized, in college there are going to be SO many people that live different lifestyles than what I do, that ARE different from who I am. However, that doesn’t mean I have the right to judge! (Whether or not I believe in their values…this is another topic for discussion however.) I know this is a common lesson we learn, but you really never realize how you pass judgement until you are put in this situation.

By the end of the evening I must say I did meet many more people. I was still exhausted by the number of people I met and to be onest I don’t think I remember any of their names. Luckily, I will probably not be seeing any of them around again because we will be on opposite ends of campus. I do want to point out though, I never saw Vasundhara judge any of them for being different. That is actually the reason my judgement was so emphasized. I don’t know if that’s just a common thing in Texas or what. Lol, just kidding. 😉 But I really respected that! 

Anyways, two morals of the story:

1) Don’t judge others for being “different”.

2) Prepare yourself for being social because it is necessary especially when you enter college.

The shape of your particle

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So back to what I dressed up for TOK – disappointment, rejection, failure. With college apps, programs, and scholarships all over the place, rejection is something you have to get used to. And trust me, this wasn’t (isn’t) easy, especially when it makes you feel like nothing you’ve done matters. 

But the thing is, there’s only so much you can do. God takes care of the rest. If you don’t do as well as you hoped, or don’t get into the program you wanted to get in, maybe God doesn’t want you there. God has another plan for you. 

Truth is, failure is inevitable. We can’t let failure knock us down because we have an entire future ahead of us. And we need this positive attitude to keep us going. We need this positive attitude to realize the value God has instilled within us. We need this attitude to know that our life isn’t a waste. That extra five minutes you take to finish your math assignment is an extra five minutes that you used in your life to help you understand that concept better for yourself. That extra five minutes might help you prepare for something you do in the future. 

Truth is: everything you do and everything you go through shapes who you are. I remember earlier I quoted a verse: “For we are God’s handiwork created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do” (Ephesians 2:10, NIV). 

And it’s true. You may not use what you learn in the near future…but God very well knows why you’re learning it. God knows very well why not everything runs smoothly. God is only preparing you. 

This is something my dad had to remind me of the other day. And coming from him, was a blessing and something I definitely needed to hear.